Shedding season.

I opened the closet door this morning and the first thing I saw was a teal blouse I’ve worn for years. This sturdy staple has seen me through many a day when I was totally unprepared to get out the door for work and it was always wearable right out of the wash. Its color and style allows me to pair it with a wide selection of other clothing I own.

But when I touched it today, I noticed how worn it had become and how its rich color had faded. The styling seemed outdated. Why hadn’t I noticed this before now? Perhaps it was time to retire it. But what would take its place on my unprepared days? And, in a slightly sappy sense, the blouse had been a good and faithful servant for so long, and here I was about to discard it, as if it were the Velveteen Rabbit. I vacillated, thinking of where I’d worn it – to M.D. Anderson Cancer Center where I’d done the most meaningful work of my life – and how it framed my silver and turquoise jewelry purchased from a street vendor during a New Mexico trip.

I thought, too, about the field coat for which I’d longed so many years while living in a hot climate. Catalog spreads featured long haired, Wellington-booted women with silky-coated hunting dogs at their sides tramping through autumn fields; strong, independent, cosmopolitan yet country women wearing field coats. On eBay, I found a mulberry-colored field coat trimmed in brown corduroy and lined in plaid that I wore triumphantly after my winning bid. For about six months, that is, until I realized I wasn’t a long-haired, boot-wearing, country-dwelling catalog model with a purebred dog. I was a citified, job-hopping, purpose-seeking former dog owner, wearing a coat that didn’t fit me.  I folded it into the Goodwill bag. Fortunately, I hadn’t spent much money on the coat. But I had paid a significant price learning the lesson that I could only be who and what I was, not what I saw someone else be in a magazine. As the years had passed, I had changed and grown, and outgrown the field coat before I even got it. But I couldn’t see that I had to let go of the person I was trying to create who could fit the image in that coat.

And now I’ve worn out as well as outgrown the teal blouse. I think I noticed before today that it was past its prime and didn’t want to admit it. But I don’t want another field coat lesson, either. Sometimes what worked yesterday, in both clothes and dreams, doesn’t meet today’s needs, and it’s time to accept the fact and move on. I’ll be sad to see my teal blouse go, but I know I’ll find another favorite.

I’m thinking it will be something in a bright, in-your-face color. Something that a free-thinking, survivor-sort of woman would wear.

 

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8 responses to “Shedding season.

  1. I love this post! The part about outgrowing the field coat before you had even gotten it was so touching. I really enjoy your writing style– it’s very engaging and flows so nicely.

  2. I am glad that Nancy has sent me your work. I, too, totally enjoy what you write about as well as your writing style. I just mentioned yesterday that you write as you speak. That is a true talent. One that should be shared with everyone. Think about starting a blog…or write a book…could be the start of a new career….

  3. I can relate! Us women have certain emotions with our clothing…I’m pretty sure men don’t…LOL….Great post!!

  4. I have given up many clothing items since I’ve lost weight. I am afraid my long suede skirt will be next and I really love it.

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  6. Men do get attached to clothing. My dad used to rescue favorite shirts my mom had tried to throw away, and I have a few fondly remembered slogan tee-shirts preserved in plastic bags.

    You could do what baseball players do with some of their jerseys and frame the teal blouse. Or use it to make an art project.

    • Too late — somebody else is now wearing teal. My art projects frequently spring from (empty) alcohol containers. And bless my husband, he has a shirt I had made for him a dozen years ago that’s in such bad shape that it can’t even be used as a rag, but he refuses to part with it.

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